Politics and personal autonomy

by Mag the Blag // 27 August 2014, 21:02

Tags: body image, co-dependence, confidence, party politics, politics, self-esteem, women in politics

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All the main parties want to boost their numbers of women and they want more of us to stand for political positions. But they rarely venture into the messy territory of personal issues to find explanations for why women are so under-represented in their parties.

It's not easy to find someone in party politics who's open about personal issues but luckily I come across Ruth, (not her real name) who's willing to talk to me. Ruth is a middle aged professional woman, confident in her role of party political activist. Nevertheless I get the sense that she feels a bit uncomfortable.

I started by asking if political choices can be compromised through relationships with men. The answer was definitive: absolutely. She told me that in her younger days, before she joined a political party, she was a journalist and married to photo-journalist. "He was good looking and people would look at me, a fat woman with this drop dead gorgeous guy, and it felt like they thought I didn't deserve to be with him. I always felt less than." I can sense a hint of vulnerability behind Ruth's words, as if part of her had returned to an earlier version of herself where she did not value herself.

Ruth told me she found herself unable to question the page 3 culture that was prevalent in the publishing world that they were both part of. "I assumed you could only complain if you were young, beautiful and thin." This combination of a sexist culture and lack of self-esteem meant that Ruth was left without a voice.

Ruth told me that in her twenties she went on a strict diet and for a short time lost massive amounts of weight. She says that being thin enabled her entry into the computing world. "There's a stereotype that the computing world is full of geeks but there was definitely a look that you had to have. Suddenly my salary leapt over my husband's. His colleagues ribbed him about it and I felt that somehow it was my fault and that I was in the wrong because of his mates."

This is a classic co-dependent dynamic. One definition of co-dependence is: "You cut, I bleed." Ruth worried that her husband might feel diminished because of her greater earning power so she spent her emotional energy protecting him, to the detriment of her own views and needs. The irony was that her husband couldn't care less about earning less than Ruth - in fact he was proud of her. But this made no difference. "I was so busy trying to get it right that I didn't have time to think about my own views." Luckily for Ruth she didn't go so far as to leave her high-earning job.

At about this time of her life Ruth joined a political party. She went on anti-racist marches and campaigned against poverty. But Ruth tells me that it never would have occurred to her to bring up body size or the sexist culture that dominated the media view of women.

It was only when she went to a workshop on self-expression that Ruth understood that she was a separate person from her partner. "For the first time I realised that I had right to my own views and my own life." This marked the beginning of her journey away from her partner and his views and they eventually agreed to divorce. Ruth went to more workshops, attended self-help groups and found a mentor. "I had to put the time in to find myself as a person" she tells me. Ruth is now politically active and has stood as a candidate. She is proud of her ability to stand for election and demand that her voice be heard. "It's still a very male party, and it's tough out there. I know that when I put my head over the parapet someone's going to take a pot shot at me, but these days I can take it."

One woman's story does not an explanation make. However, these are all commonly reported problems that reduce women's potential to be part of political life: co-dependence prevents women from focusing on their own issues, lack of self-esteem is an internal censor that inhibits self-expression and body image issues act as a barrier to standing for political positions.

Unfortunately we're not at the point where the mainstream political parties are willing to take on these personal issues and how they're the affected by the sexist culture we live in. At the level of party politics, the personal is still deeply apolitical. Feminists have their work cut out.

The image is by Aslan Media and is used under a creative commons licence. It shows a red background with a white political crest and white writing reading "MEN POWER AND POLITICS". Black graffiti writing adds "WO" so it reads "WOMEN POWER AND POLITICS".

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