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<title type="text">Having your cake and eating it</title>
<summary type="text">EDIT: Believe it or not, I was a fully-fledged anorexic by the age of 12, so it&apos;s not as if I&apos;m a stranger to eating disorders! I had an utterly horrific childhood, which I won&apos;t go into here, but let&apos;s...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>EDIT: Believe it or not, I was a fully-fledged anorexic by the age of 12, so it's not as if I'm a stranger to eating disorders! I had an utterly horrific childhood, which I won't go into here, but let's just say I'm not quite the privileged middle class type I seem. So I was really horrified that people thought I was referring to women who really did have serious issues with food! The thing is, I had been pretty much unaware of this "I mustn't eat this and that" culture until such time as I started making a massive effort to get better permanently. When I had promised myself that I would never again restrict what I eat, suddenly the whole world seemed to be telling me that I needed to police my eating habits. The fact that I was trying very hard to no longer police my own consumption really opened my eyes to just how "disordered" most women's relationship with food seems to be, or rather how disordered the relationship with food that we are "supposed" to have is. It makes me angry that perfectly healthy women feel the need to feel bad when they eat "bad" things, and it makes me angry that if I hadn't had an eating disorder, if I hadn't been forced to examine my own attitude to food in order to get better, and if I hadn't been forced to swear to myself that I would never, ever diet or restrict my food in any way unless I got overweight, perhaps I'd be participating in it too. I'm really sorry if I've offended anyone, but I do stand by what I said - I think that most of the time, saying things like, "I shouldn't eat this, I'm being really naughty" is a frivolous female bonding exercise, but it just doesn't help any of us. And it especially doesn't help people who really do have genuine issues. I've lost friends over this - for years I was too fragile to be around girls who talked about their restrictive eating habits all the time. I really regret not saying this in the original post, but it seemed a bit too personal at the time. I now realise that a bit of context would have been appropriate! Seriously, I really am sorry, and extend my heartfelt sympathy/empathy/best wishes to anyone of any gender struggling with any kind of eating disorder.</p>

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<p>I was at a press conference the other day, at which the organisers had kindly provided us with a big tray of yummy pastries. As is generally my way when there is free food around, I had pretty much parked myself next to it, but I decided to use my vantage point to conduct some observations. I listened to the comments of every single person who approached that tray of yummy pastries, and boy was it depressing. Not a single woman took one without commenting on how she really shouldn't be eating it.</p>

<p>"I'm being really naughty"<br />
"Oooh I really shouldn't"<br />
"Oooh I'm so fat"<br />
"This is going to go straight to my hips"</p>

<p>Incidentally, not one of these women was above a size 12. Interestingly enough, I also observed that not a single woman in the room <i>didn't</i> eat one. Women do eat. A lot of us just feel the need to apologise for it. There's an unwritten rule that we must constantly be seen to be making an effort to keep our weight down. We can eat cake, as long as we suffer terrible guilt as a result. We can eat biscuits, as long as we visualise them sticking to our thighs and sink into self-loathing.* </p>

<p>I think there must be an awful lot of front to it - if a person really did suffer such horrendous guilt for eating cake, then they probably wouldn't eat cake. Creating the guilt is a way of proving that although you are eating cake, you are a good girl really because you feel so bad for it. You get to have your cake and eat it too. I think it's a sort of female bonding thing. We're all in this struggle together sisters, trying to control our wayward bodies in a world that contains cake!</p>

<p>I don't think I need to tell you that this annoys the hell out of me. I love my food. And nobody is going to persuade me that I'm only allowed to eat anything other than salad if I pay for it in guilt. I hereby declare that I eat an entirely adequate diet, including cake, and do not feel guilty about it. We'll only stop this madness if we refuse to join in.</p>

<p>Alternatively, we could just find better things to bond over. Like for instance the fact that we live in a society in which women are villified for being even marginally overweight, whereas men have to be morbidly obese before suffering a similar degree of discrimination. Or the fact that women are still paid less than men. Or the fact that men usually get away with raping women. Or the fact that our right to have a reasonable degree of control over our reproductive systems is under scrutiny. We are locked in a common struggle, sisters, but it's not with our thighs.</p>

<p><small>*In a strange sort of loophole, chips are okay as long as they're stolen from a man's plate. I've never understood that one.</small></p>]]>
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<title type="text">Summer is finally here!</title>
<summary type="text">The sun is out, the birds are singing and London seems a much happier place. For the benefit of our international readers, Britain is currently enjoying a break from the positively crapulent weather we&#8217;ve been having lately. The sun is...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>The sun is out, the birds are singing and London seems a much happier place. For the benefit of our international readers, Britain is currently enjoying a break from the positively crapulent weather we&#8217;ve been having lately. The sun is shining, the sky is blue, and sleazy men are on the prowl.</p>

<p>It seems as if the sort of men who view women as public property to be harassed at their leisure see the arrival of the summer months as a signal to go absolutely ape-shit. The hotter the weather, the more they exercise their supposed right to treat women&#8217;s bodies as commodities for public consumption. I suppose it&#8217;s just that they know that because it&#8217;s warmer women are more likely to be skimpily dressed, not that that&#8217;s any excuse. All I know is that 8am is entirely too early to have some sweaty bloke lean out of his vehicle to leer at you, which is what happened to me on the way to the tube station this morning.</p>

<p>Feminists are quite rightly unafraid of saying that however a woman dresses and wherever she walks, sexual assault is wrong. Most if not all of us agree that shouting lewd things also is wrong. But I go one further: I think staring is wrong. I'm not talking about just looking at an attractive woman, noticing her, appreciating her beauty, eyeing her up in a covert manner or possibly entertaining lustful thoughts. There's clearly nothing wrong with that. What I'm talking about is the lascivious, aggressive stare of a man who wants you to know that he's staring at you. He wants you to know that it's his God-given right to look you up and down like that and there's nothing you can do about it. It's as much a display of dominance as telling a woman to get her tits out. It can make you feel just as violated as being groped. </p>

<p>It's also an unbelievably cowardly thing to do. If you grope a woman, you risk her hitting back. If you tell her what a nice arse she has, you risk her saying something cutting that could - shock horror! - undermine your masculinity. If you just stare, it's damn near impossible for her to fight back because there's nothing to engage with, and besides, you haven't technically done anything wrong.</p>

<p>Everybody knows it's rude to stare. It's not just quaint British etiquette, it's a deep-rooted phenomenon - even primates use it as a display of aggression. In some cultures it is considered rude to make eye contact at all. Even a non-aggressive stare can make the victim feel extremely uncomfortable. This is basic manners. Why do manners go out of the window when a sleazy man is faced with an attractive woman? Why is it considered acceptable to stare blatantly at her?</p>

<p>A lot of people seem to think that this is the inevitable consequence of being a red-blooded testosterone-driven heterosexual male. I say this is bollocks. Noticing, appreciating and lusting after attractive women is the inevitable consequence of being a red-blooded testosterone-driven heterosexual male. Staring at them aggressively is NOT. If I see an attractive man I will look at him, but if he catches me looking I will look away quickly, possibly with a friendly smile, firstly because I don't want the embarrassment of him knowing I was eyeing him up, but secondly because I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable. I see lots of men displaying this approach too. No man is incapable of manners, however rabidly heterosexual he is.</p>

<p>The most common argument I hear about this is, "But they're neanderthals! They surely are incapable of not expressing their desire to stick their dick in every young woman that walks past!" Poppycock. I have irrefutable evidence that these red-blooded testosterone-driven heterosexual males can behave when it suits them. I know for a fact that these neanderthals are perfectly capable of curbing their &#8220;natural instincts&#8221;. I know this because I have never, ever, EVER been so much as glanced at by one of them when I'm in male company. There's a sort of code of honour amongst these sorts of men, that you don't harass another man's bird. How courteous of them.</p>

<p>If you're with a man you are immune to harassment. The man's assumed desire for you not to be sleazed on is automatically respected, but any protests you make when you're alone, whether in the form of fighting back or ignoring them and staring at the floor, fall on deaf ears. Doesn't that say so much about the inherent misogyny in this?</p>

<p>The way I see it, if they can leave me alone when I'm with a man, then they can bloody well leave me alone when I don't have "protection". They need to have some fucking manners and start treating women like human beings, whether their harassment consists of groping, heckling or just staring. My body belongs to nobody but me.</p>]]>
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<updated>2008-05-07T16:09:06Z</updated>
<published>2008-05-07T13:02:43Z</published>
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<title type="text">Fergie&apos;s daughter inherits her &quot;imperfect figure&quot;</title>
<summary type="text">The Daily Mail is running a truly revolting article today. I mean, seriously. They have actually surpassed themselves on the We-Hate-Women&#8217;s-Bodies front. Sarah &#8220;Duchess of Pork&#8221; Ferguson&#8217;s daughter Beatrice has gone on holiday, had the temerity to wear a bikini...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>The Daily Mail is running a <a href=http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=562889&in_page_id=1879&in_page_id=1879&expand=true#StartComments>truly revolting article</a> today. I mean, seriously. They have actually surpassed themselves on the We-Hate-Women&#8217;s-Bodies front. Sarah &#8220;Duchess of Pork&#8221; Ferguson&#8217;s daughter Beatrice has gone on holiday, had the temerity to wear a bikini (how dare she!) and been photographed in it. And since she is now 19, she is considered fair game for a disgusting, bitchy character assassination based on the fact that she seems to have inherited her mother&#8217;s thighs:</p>

<blockquote> Puberty can be a cruel thing, but there is a time when a young woman must take responsibility for her own thighs and accept that whatever genes you inherit, you can - and probably should - make changes to your lifestyle and diet in an effort to do something about it. 

<p>I suspect that for all her natural beauty, when Beatrice sees these holiday snaps, she may think that moment is fast approaching. </p>

<p>Beatrice does not have to carry the sins of the mother on her thighs. <br />
She has a wonderful and privileged life ahead of her, but unless she gets her body under control, she'll have a lifetime of yo-yo dieting and pitiful self-esteem. Just ask Fergie. </p>

<p>Which does make you rather wonder where her mother is in all this. </p>

<p>Having written so movingly (and lucratively, thanks to a multi-million pound WeightWatchers contract) about her own eating problems as a young woman - the obesity that drove her to despair and wrecked her marriage, about the pain of being labelled the Duchess of Pork - you'd have thought she'd have taken a more interventionist role in her elder daughter's physical well-being. </p>

<p>But all is not lost. I'm sure Weight-Watchers would snap up a royal mother and daughter deal. At least Beatrice has now got the "before" pictures.</blockquote></p>

<p>You heard it here first girls - control your wayward bodies or else people will be able to see your SINS! What a disgusting, pathetic, catty*, bitchy* attack. What concerns me most is that there must be people out there who actually enjoy reading stuff like this.</p>

<p>*<small>Not gender-specific terms - I use these words to describe men too and wish more people did.</small></p>]]>
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<updated>2008-04-30T10:36:34Z</updated>
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<title type="text">Can men be feminists?</title>
<summary type="text">Cath Elliott is pondering this question on Comment Is Free today. Can men ever really be feminists, or should pro-feminist men be consigned to the sidelines, welcome allies in the struggle for gender equality, but disqualified from full membership by...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Cath Elliott is <a href="http://commentisfree.guardian.co.uk/cath_elliott/2008/04/can_men_be_feminists.html">pondering this question</a> on Comment Is Free today.</p>

<blockquote>Can men ever really be feminists, or should pro-feminist men be consigned to the sidelines, welcome allies in the struggle for gender equality, but disqualified from full membership by dint of their unasked for but nonetheless privileged position as fully paid up members of the male fraternity?</blockquote>

<p>I'm not going to comment on what I think, because I really want to know what YOU think. Go forth and debate!<br />
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<updated>2008-04-24T09:56:43Z</updated>
<published>2008-04-24T08:42:23Z</published>
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<title type="text">Lithuania considers abortion ban</title>
<summary type="text">Apparently, Lithuania is considering a ban on abortion. This has been pretty much covered at Feministing so I&apos;m not going to say too much about it here. How utterly depressing. There are three countries in the EU that have a...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Apparently, Lithuania is considering a ban on abortion. This has been pretty much covered at <a href="http://feministing.com/archives/009022.html">Feministing</a> so I'm not going to say too much about it here.</p>

<p>How utterly depressing. There are three countries in the EU that have a ban on abortion - Ireland, Poland and Malta. And in <a href="http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2007/10/nicaraguan_wome">Nicaragua</a>, Chile and El Salvador, abortion is banned under <i>any</i> circumstances, even when the woman will die from continuing with the pregnancy. Horrendous. And as feministing points out, in practice it is poor women who suffer the most as they do not have the option of seeking treatment abroad.</p>

<p><a href="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/2/29/AbortionLawsMap.png">This map</a>, courtesy of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abortion">Wikipedia</a>, indicates the state of abortion laws around the world.</p>]]>
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<updated>2008-04-21T09:52:49Z</updated>
<published>2008-04-21T08:14:43Z</published>
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<title type="text">Is it possible to be a feminist and still like &quot;Sex and the City&quot;?</title>
<summary type="text">Alice Wignall ponders this question in The Guardian today. For a show about women, it displays a singular obsession with men. As Miranda, the character most likely to consider herself a feminist, points out in one episode: &quot;How does it...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Alice Wignall <a href="http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/women/story/0,,2273785,00.html">ponders this question</a> in The Guardian today.</p>

<blockquote>For a show about women, it displays a singular obsession with men. As Miranda, the character most likely to consider herself a feminist, points out in one episode: "How does it happen that four such smart women have nothing to talk about but boyfriends?"

<p>Since the primary purpose of SATC is to explore what it was like for thirtysomething heterosexual single women negotiating sex and love in a late 20th-century urban setting, it would be hard to do that without mentioning men. But that makes it, at its heart, a protracted romantic comedy, and SATC suffers from being bound by the still-pretty-conventional constraints of the genre</blockquote></p>

<p>Yep, I'd agree with that. Apart from Samantha, all of the women in SATC want to settle down with a rich man and make babies, with varying degrees of optimism ranging from Charlotte's prissy fairytale attitude to Miranda's world-weary cynicism. And by the time the show ended they were all coupled up - even Samantha had finally found someone she actually wanted to commit to. Don't get me wrong, I was happy with the way it all turned out, but it's all very traditional stuff. </p>

<p>One of the more obvious criticisms of SATC from a feminist point of view is its lack of representation - all of the main characters are white, middle class, rich, well-educated and heterosexual. But are we expecting too much of it?</p>

<blockquote>On one level, this is simply a piece of scene setting - it is a show about wealthy New Yorkers, not about all women everywhere. Kim Akass of Manchester Metropolitan University points out that because there are so few television programmes purely about women, "Sex and the City bears the burden of representation. No one expects The Sopranos to encompass the experience of all middle-aged Italian-American men." The lack of drama in any other aspect of the women's lives except their relationships - the fact that they don't generally have to deal with issues arising from, for example, financial burdens or family ties - clears the field for their sex lives to become their first priority.</blockquote>

<p>I hope that it's possible to call oneself a feminist and still watch SATC, because I am going to admit, right here in feminist cyberspace, that I love it and can't get enough of the repeats on Paramount Comedy. I will say however that I have never found it completely unproblematic. </p>

<p>In the anti-feminist corner we have:<br />
<li> The obsession with men's money and status<br />
<li> The way that Brazilian bikini waxes are done without question<br />
<li> The fact that other than frowning over her laptop the heroine never really appears to do anything except buy shoes and go on dates with complete sleazeballs<br />
<li> The fact that the one character who has no interest in settling down is by far the weakest and least believable</p>

<p>Battling it out in the pro-feminist corner we have:<br />
<li> The fact that all of the female characters seem to have A LOT of sex and enjoy it<br />
<li> The fact that they all have successful careers (even if Carrie's doesn't seem to involve much actual work)<br />
<li> The fact that they are strong characters and rarely afraid to air their opinions<br />
<li> The fact that you rarely hear them bemoaning their physical appearance<br />
<li> The fact that they all seem to be pretty comfortable with their bodies in general</p>

<p>I'd say that it was pretty much a dead heat between the two, but that because some of the stuff on the pro-feminist side was so groundbreaking at the time, I'm erring on the side of approving of it. </p>

<p>But what always bothered me the most about SATC, and what continues to confuse me even more now that I am a journalist myself, is how on earth Carrie paid for her Manolo habit by writing one newspaper column.</p>

<p>It doesn't stop me watching it though. Or wishing that I had her job.<br />
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<title type="text">Daily Mail attacks &quot;curvy&quot; Miss England finalist</title>
<summary type="text">You may have noticed that the Daily Mail seems to have developed a bit of an obsession recently with Miss England&apos;s first ever size 16 finalist. Chloe Marshall has been praised in lavishly patronising drivel full of godawful cliches about...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>You may have noticed that the Daily Mail seems to have developed a bit of an obsession recently with Miss England's first ever size 16 finalist. Chloe Marshall has been praised in lavishly patronising drivel full of <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=540732&in_page_id=1770">godawful cliches</a> about "<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=546589&in_page_id=1879">real women</a>" and "<a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=552792&in_page_id=1773">role models</a>" and of course liberal use of the word "curvy" as a euphemism for "fat". "You don't have to be a size zero to be beautiful" - oh, thank you Daily Mail, now I have permission to eat something other than celery! But it was only a matter of time before the plus-size princess was stripped of her tiara:</p>

<blockquote>At 5ft 10in, Chloe should have a body mass index, or BMI, (indicating her levels of fat) of 20. Hers is 26.03.

<p>Chloe's BMI puts her as undeniably overweight. </p>

<p>Our doctors' surgeries are full of people whose problems are caused by their weight. </p>

<p>Devastating conditions - from Type 2 diabetes to heart problems and many cancers - are caused or exacerbated by obesity. </p>

<p>And if Chloe is so overweight at barely 17, one shudders to imagine just how fat she will be a few years down the line.</blockquote></p>

<p><b>Bollocks</b>. Absolute, unmitigated bollocks. Chloe's BMI, at any height, should ideally be somewhere between 20 and 25. 26.03 is slightly overweight, but not exactly pushing into gastric bypass territory. Furthermore, since she appears to have little fat around her middle, I would bet that she's not unhealthy at all. She might benefit from losing a few pounds, but she's not exactly a poster girl for heart disease and Type 2 diabetes.</p>

<p>Chloe may be a little on the chubby side, but she is surely no more overweight than many of her fellow finalists are underweight. Where's the hysteria about them?</p>]]>
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<updated>2008-04-11T15:35:24Z</updated>
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<title type="text">Brunettes have more fun!</title>
<summary type="text">Your ball-busting brunette blogger read the above headline on The Times website this morning with a mixture of delight, amusement, scepticism, and visions of proudly linking it from her facebook profile. When I clicked through to the article though I...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Your ball-busting brunette blogger read the above headline on The Times website this morning with a mixture of delight, amusement, scepticism, and visions of proudly linking it from her facebook profile. When I clicked through to the <a href="http://timesonline.typepad.com/style/2008/04/brunettes-bag-t.html">article</a> though I found that it was such a pile of monkey pants that I almost didn't even bother blogging about it. </p>

<p>Here's the angry feminist bit: the reason brunettes supposedly have more "fun" is that they are more likely to marry rich men. No statistics for women who become rich through their own intelligence and hard work then. "Fun" is being rich, and getting rich means marrying into wealth. </p>

<blockquote>Experts at LOVE@LYCOS the dating channel of Lycos.co.uk analysed the WAG's hair colour of the world's top 100 billionaires to determine if there is a predominant hair colour wealthy men seen to go for. The majority by a long way were brunettes, with 62% of billionaires marrying women with brown hair.

<p>With wealthy men showing such a considerable preference for brunettes, it will be interesting to chart the number of women requesting a change of colour at their local hairdresser!</blockquote></p>

<p>Eww.</p>

<p>And here's the debunkment bit: the reason that 62% of billionaires marry brunettes rather than blondes is probably simply that brown hair is more common. Duh.</p>]]>
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<title type="text">More on shoes</title>
<summary type="text">Jess&apos; post yesterday got me thinking, or rather, inspired me to actually blog about something to which I&apos;ve always given a lot of thought. A couple of years ago I was on a quick lunchtime shoe shopping binge with a...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Jess' <a href="http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2008/03/femail_watch_cl">post</a> yesterday got me thinking, or rather, inspired me to actually blog about something to which I've always given a lot of thought. </p>

<p>A couple of years ago I was on a quick lunchtime shoe shopping binge with a colleague. She picked up a pair of high heels, turned them round, and put them back on the shelf with a distasteful, "Eurgh, they've got lesbian heels." Since the heels in question were of a clumpy nature I guess she was buying into the idea that gay women wear ugly shoes and thus are ugly women. Since when did women's shoes become so ridiculously fetishised? How did it come to pass that there is a style of shoe associated with being an unattractive individual? In a way, it's kind of liberating - you can control how attractive people think of you as being by changing your shoes. But it's also just plain weird. And it royally sucks that in order to be considered "attractive" you have to be uncomfortable.</p>

<p>Why must our sexual attractiveness be tied up in being uncomfortable? Why is a woman teetering in stilettos more attractive than a woman walking confidently in trainers? Why is "sexy" underwear made of scratchy lace, "chicken fillets" and what a male friend of mine charmingly refers to as "arse floss"? Why is it so difficult to find nice, pretty underwear that doesn't involve "arse floss"? </p>

<p>In so many cultures throughout history, a woman's attractiveness has been directly related to how uncomfortable, and in extreme cases how disabled, she is. There was foot binding, which rendered the victim unable to hobble more than a few metres, and corsets which rearranged the internal organs. There are some cultures today that feed their girls until they are morbidly obese in order to make them more attractive marriage prospects, some that butcher girls' genitals for similar reasons. These are things that parents (usually mothers) do to girls though, in order to increase their prospects in highly patriarchal societies in which the best a girl can hope for out of life is to be well married. High heels and arse floss are things that women do to themselves in a society in which they have the same legal rights as men. They choose to do it to themselves. But then again, and depending of course on what your profession is, being attractive can massively increase one's success at work. Has anybody ever seen that back page of Glamour magazine, where they take photos of random people on the street and critique their outfits? There was a horrid one a while back, in which they'd photographed a woman wearing a suit with trainers and said that this was a massive no-no. It made me spit with rage - this woman probably had to wear horribly uncomfortable shoes at work, and why the hell shouldn't she wear comfy shoes for the journey and change when she got to the office? Are we to look perfectly sexy 24 hours a day? I wonder if Glamour thinks that it's acceptable for us to take our heels off at night?</p>

<p>There is nothing inherently vile about high heels. I like high heels as much as the next twentysomething woman. In my wardrobe you will find several stratospheric, spangly, studded creations that would make Carrie Bradshaw weep with envy (although thankfully for my bank balance, none of them are Manolos). However, on an everyday basis you're much more likely to find me in old martial arts trainers. I have worn out several pairs of jodhpur boots in my time, but I have yet to wear out a stiletto heel. Does this mean I'm a minger? Well if it does, at least I'm comfortable. And at least I have a filter for any men who are so ridiculously shallow that their opinion of a woman is coloured by her shoes not being sufficiently sexy.</p>

<p>I get considerably more male attention when I wear high heels than when I wear flat shoes, to quite an amazing extent. I can simply change my shoes and nothing else, and watch the number of neanderthals who try to grope me in the street skyrocket. I can't believe that they actually make me that much more attractive. I just can't believe that being a few inches taller is going to make a significant difference to my attractiveness - I honestly don't think many men are that bothered about the difference between 5ft2 and 5ft6, surely? Likewise, I don't think looking slightly thinner is going to make much of a difference either. There's also the theory that wearing high heels forces the wearer to arch their back and stick out their tits and arse, but I don't buy that either - I happen to have a lot of tits and arse and a very hollow back even without high heels, and the heels still massively affect the amount of male attention I get. I'm sure it's about more than just how you look in the shoes. Because high heels are stereotyped as "sexy", wearing them gives out a "message" that you are hot and ready and up for it. (I may well be hot and ready and up for it, but not with some creep who yells at me to get my tits out just because I am wearing "heterosexual shoes"). </p>

<p>Most of the time this attention is just annoying, but it can be terrifying. It takes me ten minutes to walk from the tube station to my house, and last Saturday night, whilst wearing a pair of high-heeled cowboy boots with skinny jeans, I had two rape threats during that ten minutes. One of them was particularly unpleasant, involving two guys in a car cruising past me for a couple of minutes wolf whistling and shouting about how they were going to take me up the arse, and then speeding up and turning into a side street which of course made me think they were lying in wait. Of course they weren't waiting for me in that side street - they had sped away by the time I walked past. They'd just been threatening me for fun. </p>

<p>Because you're more likely to get harrassed when you look "sexy" and because you're more likely to look "sexy" when you're wearing something that in some way restricts your movement, the very time at which you're most likely to be threatened is the time at which you're least likely to be able to physically defend yourself. The main reason I was scared by those naughty men on Saturday night was that I knew I wouldn't be able to run as fast as them, and that a black belt in taekwondo is no good when you're wearing skinny jeans. I wonder if vulnerability = sexiness. Would I have been even <i>more</i> "sexy" if I'd been wearing shoes so uncomfortable I'd been struggling to walk? Is a woman who can't fight back the best kind? </p>

<p>I know that the official feminist party line on this is "it doesn't make a difference what you wear, women get harrassed regardless" but let's face it, women do get harrassed much more when they are dressed in a manner which the patriarchy defines as "sexy". I know damn well that if I had worn that skinny jeans and bomber jacket combo with flat boots, I would not have received anything like the same amount of harrassment, and the harrassment I had received would not have been so unpleasant. I know this because that is exactly the sort of outfit I wear on an everyday basis with little or no trouble - it's only the addition of a pair of high heels that makes men think it's okay to harrass me in such an aggressive manner. This is one of the most annoying things - you know that if you hadn't worn the heels you wouldn't be being harrassed so much, and so you feel some sense of responsibility for it. Or, if you're me, you don't feel that the disgusting behaviour of such lowlifes should affect your wardrobe choices and so you wear the heels regardless and get very angry at the patriarchy.</p>

<p>I was out from 6pm - midnight on Saturday night, and during that time I probably walked past hundreds of men. Only three harrassed me, so it's not as if men in general are a problem here. But those three were enough to make me feel petrified, furious, embarrassed and, as ever, astounded at the effect a pair of heels seems to have on what "sort of girl" people think I am. It's frankly weird that the shoes a woman wears are considered to be so heavily indicative of attractiveness, sexual orientation, sexual availability, so many attributes that really have sod all to do with shoes. How did all this happen? Why are we judged as ugly or "easy", gay or straight, depending on whether or not we happen to have chosen spangly stilettos or DM boots to go with our outfits on any given day? And how the hell can we stop it?</p>]]>
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<title type="text">Quote of the day</title>
<summary type="text">A while ago, after writing a column about feminism, I received an e-mail from a reader who said: &quot;I think it&apos;s great that you, as a man, write about these issues. But imagine a situation where you were exactly the...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<blockquote>A while ago, after writing a column about feminism, I received an e-mail from a reader who said: "I think it's great that you, as a man, write about these issues. But imagine a situation where you were exactly the person you are now, but female. Imagine you were comparably overweight, took comparably little care over your appearance, were comparably aggressive in your opinions, admitted to a history of depression, and were a lesbian. You would not be writing for a national newspaper at all." I think that is undeniably true.</blockquote>

<p>From Johann Hari in the Independent. Go read the rest of the article <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/opinion/commentators/johann-hari/johann-hari-where-have-all-the-strong-women-gone-800875.html">here</a>.</p>]]>
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<title type="text">French women don&apos;t get fat</title>
<summary type="text">Zoe Williams has a hilarious and perceptive opinion piece in The Guardian today, exploring the publishing phenomenon based on cultural stereotypes that would have us think that French women are beautiful, elegant creatures entirely unlike our lardy selves. French women...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Zoe Williams has a hilarious and perceptive <a href="http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/women/story/0,,2267872,00.html">opinion piece</a> in The Guardian today, exploring the publishing phenomenon based on cultural stereotypes that would have us think that French women are beautiful, elegant creatures entirely unlike our lardy selves.</p>

<blockquote>French women are creatures to be emulated. They do not get fat, according to French Women Don't Get Fat, by Mireille Guiliano; the same author, in her next book, French Women for All Seasons, tells us that they are always happy with the season of life they are in, be it the young-filly season or the old-bag season. This is because - and I have scoured this book; I am not being facetious, this is literally her answer - they don't get fat. What a wonderful secret they've unearthed - a way to come to terms with mortality that is the same as being thin. How could such a thing possibly be managed? "When being served meat, soup, vegetables, whatever at someone's home, or even in a restaurant, French women are apt to tell the person dishing it out, 'La moitié, s'il vous plaît' - just give me half of that." No! But this is too, too delicious! They have these wonderful lives, and qualities, by looking at how much everyone else is eating and just having half of it.

<p><br />
Astonishingly, there is a book by an entirely different author, Debra Ollivier, called Entre Nous: A Woman's Guide to Finding her Inner French Girl, which is subtitled, Why French Women Stay Chic, Love Life and Don't Get Fat. Presumably, one of these women could have sued the other for ripping off her title, except that French Women Don't Sue One Another Because Suing is an Ugly Thing That Leads to Wrinkles. Ollivier's book is the same, really - just a load of bilge about how amazing their self-control is, these Frenchies - "Would you look at that, I just saw a Frenchie standing next to an ice-cream van, and she chose a Gauloise instead, what amazing willpower, I wish I were more like her, yik-yak-yik-yak."</blockquote></p>

<p>This actually made me laugh so much I spat about half of the chocolate I was eating at the time over my keyboard, so perhaps I won't get fat either. I'm glad I'm not the only woman who gets pissed off about the idea that in order to be elegant, sophisticated and "feminine", I am supposed to be wearing Chanel, smoking Gauloises, pouting a lot whilst sitting outside cafes, and not getting fat. How many women actually have the money and inclination to buy designer clothes? And since when has smoking given you anything except yellow teeth, chronic bronchitis and a greater-than-average chance of dying a hideous death? As Williams points out, "Just as a lot of subtle racism slipped in under the guise of anthropology in old-school National Geographics, so a lot of misogyny slips in under the obfuscating, colourful gauze of Studies in French Etiquette."</p>

<blockquote>Can you imagine what Simone De Beauvoir would have said about being called a girl? About being included in a book whose next chapter explains why it's important to buy your walking shoes in Prada, because you can never be too well dressed? About being name-checked by a person who doesn't just not know the meaning of the word existentialist, but can't even be arsed to look it up before committing it to a paperback? Can you imagine? She would have had a cow.</blockquote>

<p>Quite.</p>

<blockquote>French women, I'm sure, don't think of themselves like this any more than we think of ourselves as foul-mouthed alcopop-hounds who eat a lot of fried food. But you cannot escape the implications - that somewhere, not too far from here, is a land where they never had anything as vulgar as a sexual revolution, where women are still, eternally, women, where they get their own way with their cat-like cunning, not with unattractive shouting, and what do you know? They are exactly the same as you; as successful as you, as educated as you, as well paid as you; they have come to the very same endpoint, only they are thinner. This is the most arrant misrepresentation of French feminists, for starters, who are no greater suckers for body-sculpting cream than any other variant of feminist; but it is also a traducement of the aims and ends of feminism, which was not just there so we might all get into the cabinet, but so we wouldn't have to resemble Elle McPherson to do so, any more than Kenneth Clarke has to justify himself by looking like Russell Crowe. 

<p><br />
What am I doing? This is where the extra 10kg come from, which make me look more like an English woman than a French woman. I am not seducing anybody. I am not making time for myself or my beauty regime. I am not internet-shopping for a pair of Tods. Would a Frenchwoman rant on like this? She would not. She would have a fag, and she would say, "Bof".<br />
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<p>I haven't much to say about this article because I just agree with all of it. French women are not goddess-like bastions of slimness and sophistication to which we must all aspire, and they deserve to be celebrated for more than this anyway.<br />
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<title type="text">A man can rent someone &quot;better&quot; than you</title>
<summary type="text">There&apos;s a totally gross article by Minette Marrin in The Times this week about the world&apos;s oldest profession. Minette Marrin is not my favourite journalist in the world for reasons completely unrelated to feminism: a few years ago she wrote...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>There's a <a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/minette_marrin/article3559363.ece">totally gross article</a> by Minette Marrin in The Times this week about the world's oldest profession.</p>

<p>Minette Marrin is not my favourite journalist in the world for reasons completely unrelated to feminism: a few years ago she wrote a piece in The Times about fox hunting, in which she denounced the "ritualistic slaughters" practised by Jews and Muslims, drawing parallels with fox hunting and claiming that it was only political correctness that stopped people from speaking out against Kosher and Halal traditions. I wrote a VERY angry letter, which The Times to their credit printed, but evidently Marrin is still writing for them, and writing some pretty vile stuff at that:</p>

<blockquote>Right up and down the scale, a man can rent a girl a great deal better and <b>more cooperative</b> than the woman he lives with. She will be probably be much more sexually experienced and more accomplished than most wives too. In plain English, or so I am told by perfectly nice men, prostitutes tend to be better at it. They tend to be younger and more energetic. They are also prepared to do things which her indoors might draw the line at.

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[my emphasis]</blockquote></p>

<p>Ew.</p>

<p>This whole article seems to rely on two assumptions:</p>

<p><li>Men have an inalienable right to sex<br />
<li>Women can't "satisfy" their husbands</p>

<p>As Kate Atkins from Guilford says:</p>

<blockquote>Where do women feature in all of this? I am sorry to remind you of this, but women like sex too! I know, shocking isn't it? And I, for one, resent Marrin's representation of all wives resembling dowdy, Laura Ashley-wearing house frous, hindering their husbands' "would-be-installing-a-sex-swing-in-the-guestroom-if-you-weren't-in-the-way" tendencies</blockquote>]]>
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<title type="text">Mind-bendingly godawful picture of the day</title>
<summary type="text"> Well, I&apos;m a bare stem, as are the majority of our readers I would guess. Oh woe is me, I so regret losing my beautiful petals - NOT! Seriously, this is vile. And blatantly, blatantly sexist. Trying to give...</summary>
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<p>Well, I'm a bare stem, as are the majority of our readers I would guess. Oh woe is me, I so regret losing my beautiful petals - NOT!</p>

<p>Seriously, this is vile. And blatantly, blatantly sexist. Trying to give young women and girls guilt complexes, stopping them from enjoying sex, encouraging them to close their legs and think of Jesus instead of having a good rodgering simply in order to appease some bizarre patriarchal obsession with female purity. You're not a frickin' rose, you're a girl, and you should have sex if you want to (with contraception, obviously).</p>

<p>Whilst on google images trying to find out where this image originally came from, I also found the following gem:</p>

<p><img src="http://www.bible.ca/oral-birth-control-NO.gif"></p>

<p>Yes, abstinence is the most effective method of avoiding diseases and unwanted pregnancy. But it really would be nice if the word "No" was an adequate, 100% foolproof way of ensuring that you weren't penetrated.</p>

<p><i>Via <a href="http://www.feministing.com">Feministing</a></i></p>]]>
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<title type="text">More on male violence against women</title>
<summary type="text">Joan Smith has written an opinion piece for The Independent about the recent spate of high-profile sexually-motivated murder cases perpetrated by men against women. For the benefit of anyone who&apos;s been on another planet recently, Levi Bellfield was convicted on...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Joan Smith has written an <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/opinion/commentators/joan-smith/joan-smith-murders-that-demand-a-radical-shift-in-attitudes-788496.html">opinion piece</a> for The Independent about the recent spate of high-profile sexually-motivated murder cases perpetrated by men against women.</p>

<p>For the benefit of anyone who's been on another planet recently, <a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/crime/article3416914.ece">Levi Bellfield</a> was convicted on Monday of bludgeoning to death two female students, and he is also being questioned in relation to the high-profile case of Milly Dowler, the 13-year-old who went missing 6 years ago. He attacked women who rejected his sexual advances.</p>

<p>Next up we have <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2008/feb/23/ukcrime2">Mark Dixie</a>, who was recently convicted of the murder of Sally-Anne Bowman, in a bizarrely grisly trial in which he denied her murder but confessed to necrophilia.</p>

<p>And finally we have the lovely, the charming <a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/crime/article3410456.ece">Steve Wright</a>, who murdered not one, not two, but FIVE women over the course of ten days in Ipswich in December 2006, the most intensive murder spree in British criminal history. That's quite some accolade.</p>

<p>Joan Smith thinks that if violence against women wasn't so readily tolerated, perhaps these men would never have got as far as committing such heinous crimes:</p>

<blockquote>So many people were aware that they abused women but nobody felt able to do anything about it. In a society where domestic violence is commonplace and rape goes unpunished, what is someone to do when they suspect that a man is abusing girls and women?

<p>I am not arguing that all men treat women badly. But a substantial minority do, and we refuse to read the signals or condemn their behaviour unequivocally. Bellfield had a reputation for picking up under-age girls and having sex with them in the back of his van, even offering to prostitute his 16-year-old "girlfriend" and her 14-year-old sister to an employee; a former partner recalled finding magazines in which he slashed photographs of blonde women, with whom he had a lethal obsession.</p>

<p>Wright had a series of violent relationships, attacking partners and abusing them as "slags" and "whores". The Yorkshire Ripper, Peter Sutcliffe, told a drinking friend he had attacked a woman with a stone hidden in a sock, but it took five years for the man to inform the police; while he was thinking about it, 13 women were murdered and half a dozen others attacked.</blockquote></p>

<p>Several people have been murdered. And it makes me angry that it sounds so much more serious when you use the word "people" instead of "women".</p>

<p>I don't think anybody thinks that these crimes would be any less horrific if the men had targeted other men, or had killed indiscriminately regardless of gender. But if these men had shown early signs of being violent individuals, having committed violent crimes, or just generally being absolute raving maniacs without specific victimisation of women, I suspect that it would have been brought to the attention of the authorities sooner. And it's not just about protecting future victims - let's not forget that however disgusted you might feel by their recent actions, these men needed and deserved psychiatric help which they might have got had they been brought to the attention of the authorities. Feeling the urge to hurt and kill other people is regarded, quite rightly, as the sign of a dangerous lunatic. Feeling the urge to hurt and kill women specifically, particularly sex workers, might be frowned upon, but it is more readily accepted. </p>

<p>Smith also has much to say about the culture of blaming mothers when children grow up into violent misogynistic psychopaths:</p>

<blockquote>Men do not commit such crimes out of the blue; most of them don't even bother to hide their hatred of women. There is usually a childhood history of domestic violence, which means that they grow up in an atmosphere of physical fear and contempt for women, whom they regard both as victims and the cause of their fathers' violence.

<p>I've heard a great deal about the role of absent mothers in the psychopathology of men who kill women, but cause and effect are being confused here; a misogynist culture inevitably overlooks the father's role and blames the mother, even when her reason for leaving the family is to escape violence.</blockquote></p>

<p>It's a pity that The Independent website doesn't allow comments - it would be really interesting to see what people make of this.<br />
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<title type="text">I heart this cartoon</title>
<summary type="text"> That is all....</summary>
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<title type="text">&quot;Sterilise all teenage girls&quot; says Fay Weldon</title>
<summary type="text">Fay Weldon has written a pretty outrageous piece for the Daily Mail in which she suggests that all girls between the ages of 12 and 17 should be forcibly sterilised. Yep, you read that right. Enforced sterilisation. I have to...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Fay Weldon has written a pretty outrageous <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=514542&in_page_id=1770">piece</a> for the Daily Mail in which she suggests that all girls between the ages of 12 and 17 should be forcibly sterilised. Yep, you read that right. Enforced sterilisation.</p>

<p>I have to say, I think that the promotion of long-term contraception to teenage girls, whilst continuing to stress the importance of using condoms, is a bloody good idea. Condoms sometimes break. And for some girls, long-term contraceptive injections or implants can drastically improve PMS symptoms. Make it available - yes. Actively recommend it in suitable cases - fine. But enforce it - are you frickin' crazy? Surely this would be a massive infringement of human rights?</p>

<p>Weldon thinks that it's the "loose morals" of today's teenage girls that are causing them to breed like rabbits:</p>

<blockquote>I do not believe it will encourage "promiscuity" because girls will feel they have nothing to fear in sleeping around. In truth, they seem to be doing that already. I'm afraid we are now in a time when sex is mere recreational pleasure to thousands of young women.</blockquote>

<p>Oh, heaven forbid that sex should be pleasurable and fun for young women! She has a stab at sex education too:</p>

<blockquote>Sex education hasn't helped, and may indeed have harmed. Freud's view of the psychosexual development of the child has been ignored. His opinion was that you interfere with the "latency" phase of ages nine to 12 at your peril, for fear of stopping further development. 

<p>In Freud's theory, the latency phase is when a child unconsciously denies the facts of life until he or she is ready to face them. If unpalatable facts are forced down the child's throat it's traumatising, and progression to sexual maturity is halted. </p>

<p>In other words, if you start teaching the birds and the bees too early, all that the nine, ten or 11-year-olds will do is want to experiment with what they have been taught before they have the emotional capability to deal with the fallout.</blockquote></p>

<p>Freud's theories have always been massively controversial, and it's inappropriate to imply that they should be heeded like this. And anyway, although it might seem a young age for children to need sex education, we live in a society in which children are constantly exposed to sexual images and often unrealistic depictions of adult sexuality. No parent, no matter how protective, can prevent their children from absorbing this, and so sex education is wholly necessary. In addition to exposure to raunch culture, children are physically maturing faster than they did a generation ago. There are many 9, 10 and 11-year-olds physically capable of reproducing. It may be an uncomfortable fact, but it is a fact, so swallow it. A girl in my class got pregnant at 12. Sex education needs to happen <i>before</i> children start thinking it's a good idea to bump uglies. But Weldon seems to think that a good old-fashioned dose of fear and ignorance wouldn't go amiss:</p>

<blockquote>The trouble is that pregnancy no longer holds the fear for teenagers it once did. The social stigma has gone. 

<p>The fear of pregnancy used to stop girls having sex. To be pregnant and unmarried was a major life disaster (as it is still in some of our ethnic communities.) </p>

<p>You were disgraced, soiled goods: the child was removed, no one would marry you.</blockquote></p>

<p>Let's all stop and have a wistful sigh as we lament the loss of the good old days when silly girls knew their place... </p>

<p>It <i>is</i> worrying that pregnancy doesn't scare many teenage girls. Getting pregnant at that age ought to be an absolutely bloody terrifying prospect. It means either facing the responsibility of having a child when you're barely out of childhood yourself, or having an abortion, which is never a pleasant experience. But surely enforced sterilisation isn't the way forward. It's all a bit <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Brave-New-World-Aldous-Huxley/dp/0099518473/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203106357&sr=8-1">Brave New World</a> for my liking.</p>]]>
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<updated>2008-02-15T20:22:08Z</updated>
<published>2008-02-15T19:22:13Z</published>
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<title type="text">Women of color have brains!</title>
<summary type="text">Remember that whole business of black women having to choose between their race or their gender? CNN readers have been up in arms about it too: An e-mailer named Tiffany responded sarcastically: &quot;Duh, I&apos;m a black woman and here I...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Remember that whole business of black women having to <a href="http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2008/01/oprah_is_a_trai">choose between their race or their gender</a>? CNN readers have been <a href="http://edition.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/01/21/emails.race.gender/index.html?eref=rss_topstories">up in arms</a> about it too:</p>

<blockquote>An e-mailer named Tiffany responded sarcastically: "Duh, I'm a black woman and here I am at the voting booth. Duh, since I'm illiterate I'll pull down the lever for someone. Hm... Well, he black so I may vote for him... oh wait she a woman I may vote for her... What Ise gon' do? Oh lordy!"

<p>Tiffany urged CNN to "pull this racist crap off" the Web site and to stop calling Hillary the "top female candidate." </p>

<p>"Stop calling Barack the "Black" candidate," she wrote.</blockquote></p>

<p>If you are reading this, Tiffany, you kick ass.</p>

<p>Margaret Cho has been <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-cho/americas-next-top-presid_b_83309.html">none too pleased</a> about this either:</p>

<blockquote>I too am insulted at the idea that just because I am a person of color and a woman that I should be expected to automatically vote for Obama or Hillary. Why are white men allowed to look at the issues and judge for themselves and the rest of us are expected to take sides grade school style? That is racist and sexist and dumb. That is like if all the stupid people voted for Huckabee (please God let this not happen). Guess what America! People of color and women think! Just like white men! For reals!!!</blockquote>

<p>Oh bloody hell...it's the 21st century and people still need to have the fact that non-white women are capable of genuine engagement with politics spelled out for them. Something is so very wrong with the world. Oh, and I love Margaret Cho. Keep getting pissed off about crap like this Margaret, we love you!</p>]]>
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<updated>2008-01-28T10:40:44Z</updated>
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<title type="text">Get your free clitoridectomy here!</title>
<summary type="text">This article from the New York Times also put me right off my breakfast this morning. It&apos;s a report from a centre in Indonesia that offers free female circumcisions. That&apos;s right girls, get your free clitoridectomy here! Sponsored by the...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/20/magazine/20circumcision-t.html?_r=3&ref=magazine&oref=slogin&oref=slogin&oref=slogin">This article</a> from the New York Times <a href="http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2008/01/israeli_supreme">also</a> put me right off my breakfast this morning. It's a report from a centre in Indonesia that offers free female circumcisions. That's right girls, get your free clitoridectomy here!</p>

<blockquote>Sponsored by the Assalaam Foundation, an Islamic educational and social-services organization, circumcisions take place in a prayer center or an emptied-out elementary-school classroom where desks are pushed together and covered with sheets and a pillow to serve as makeshift beds. The procedure takes several minutes. There is little blood involved. Afterward, the girl’s genital area is swabbed with the antiseptic Betadine. She is then helped back into her underwear and returned to a waiting area, where she’s given a small, celebratory gift — some fruit or a donated piece of clothing — and offered a cup of milk for refreshment. She has now joined a quiet majority in Indonesia, where, according to a 2003 study by the Population Council, an international research group, 96 percent of families surveyed reported that their daughters had undergone some form of circumcision by the time they reached 14.</blockquote>

<p>It is absolutely worth mentioning that FGM is not a "Muslim problem" at all - it is a tradition that is practised by Christian, Muslim and non-religious communities, and has been condemned by many Islamic leaders. A pity that the NY Times didn't see fit to point this out.</p>

<blockquote>According to Lukman Hakim, the foundation’s chairman of social services, there are three “benefits” to circumcising girls. 

<p>“One, it will stabilize her libido,” he said through an interpreter. “Two, it will make a woman look more beautiful in the eyes of her husband. And three, it will balance her psychology.”</blockquote></p>

<p><b>FUCK OFF</b></p>

<p>FGM is one of the most horrendous atrocities in the world. The most common arguments I've heard for not intervening are 1 - What about male circumcision then? If you feminists want equality, what are you doing about that? and 2 - Rah rah rah, cultural imperialism, rah rah.</p>

<p>FGM has very little in common with male circumcision. Whether or not you believe that male circumcision is right, a circumcised man can still function sexually. As The NY Times points out, 80% of female circumcisions involve the removal of the clitoris and labia, drastically reducing the amount of sexual pleasure the girl will ever be able to feel. Male circumcisions are not performed with the express intent of "taming" or "tempering" libido, or of making the victims "more attractive to their wives" or of preventing them from having extra-marital affairs by making sex at best not as much fun as it should be and at worst painful. The intent behind FGM and the method of execution make it completely incomparable with male circumcision.</p>

<p>As for the cultural imperialism argument, I'm all for letting other cultures get on with their traditions, but this just has to stop. Children are being mutilated. Women are dying needlessly in childbirth. If believing that this should end makes me an insensitive racist, then so be it.</p>]]>
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<title type="text">In praise of pants</title>
<summary type="text">Whoever knew that men&apos;s underpants were so important? I certainly didn&apos;t until I read this highly entertaining article in The Independent this morning. Apparently, for the first time in ages, women aren&apos;t purchasing the majority of men&apos;s pants (hooray!) and...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Whoever knew that men's underpants were so important? I certainly didn't until I read this <a href="http://news.independent.co.uk/uk/this_britain/article3358991.ece">highly entertaining</a> article in The Independent this morning.</p>

<p>Apparently, for the first time in ages, women aren't purchasing the majority of men's pants (hooray!) and men themselves are becoming more exacting consumers. But despite variations in the size of men's tackles, there are no plans to adopt a "cup size" scheme:</p>

<blockquote>There is one delicate area of pant advancement where men are not yet ready to go – universal package sizing. Stretch fit, says Ruth Steven, marketing manager at Jockey, is currently essential because the same waist measurement must fit a great variety of crotch dimensions. "There are no actual pouch sizes, as there are with women's bra cup sizes. We have discussed it, but I don't think it will happen. Men are a bit shyer than women. Can you imagine having to ask for a double-A size?'"</blockquote>

<p>Quite. Unlike breast size, with penis size bigger is nearly always regarded as better, and being on the small side is a cause for serious embarrassment. The big difference is that with breasts, everybody can see what size they are and judge you accordingly as either "frigid" or a "nasty slut" if you fall outside of average. It's a good thing that men's penises aren't on display because they'd go through hell if they were. Sorry, where was I? Oh yes, pants.</p>

<p>I once bought my last boyfriend a pair of Superman Y-fronts and was highly amused when he actually wore them on quite a regular basis. And where I live in North London, there is a ridiculous fashion for young men to wear baggy pants so low their entire arse is hanging out, so you can't help but see their pants (usually tartan print boxers for some reason. I mean, if you're going to have your boxers hanging out, surely Calvin Klein is the way to go?) Other than that, I've never given men's pants much thought. I certainly don't have any "aesthetic preferences". Generally, if I've got to the point where I can see a man's pants, I'm much more interested in their contents. This makes me wonder why women's lingerie is considered so important for impressing men. Are men really that bothered by it? If a woman is <i>posing</i> in lingerie I can understand a preference for it to be of the sexy kind, but surely in real life, if the average guy has a real half naked woman in his bed, he couldn't give a toss whether she's wearing a full-cup or a balconette bra.</p>

<p>But what made me decide to actually blog this was the revelation that according to Jockey, the average British woman will spend £20,350 on underwear in her life, compared to just £1,200 for men. That is A LOT of money. I don't really understand how the "average woman" could manage to spend so much on smalls. Assuming that she lives to the age of 80, that's £254 a year. I don't even spend half that, even though I wear quite expensive bras (not through choice really, it's just that the only manufacturers that produce bras in my size are the upmarket ones). I'm not quite sure where Jockey got that information from, and what type of women they surveyed, but it doesn't ring true for me.</p>

<p>Be warned though, this article definitely strays into Too Much Information territory with some of the celebrity interviews. There is the hilarious revelation that Blur, instead of making crazy M&M-related celebrity demands, used to request a new pair of M&S pants every day when they were on tour, but there's also the following from Paul Daniels:</p>

<blockquote>I wear whatever Debbie buys me: a vast mixture of Y-fronts and boxers, whatever's on top of the pile, and different brands. I don't have a favourite, or a lucky pair – what's inside is lucky, and that's me.</blockquote>

<p>Ew.</p>]]>
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<title type="text"><![CDATA[Oprah is &quot;a traitor&quot;]]></title>
<summary type="text">Apparently Oprah Winfrey is in trouble with her female fan base for backing Barack Obama instead of Hillary Clinton, The Times reports. Oprah has been very publicly backing Obama by accompanying him on a tour of Iowa, New Hampshire and...</summary>
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<![CDATA[<p>Apparently Oprah Winfrey is in trouble with her female fan base for backing Barack Obama instead of Hillary Clinton, The Times <a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/us_and_americas/us_elections/article3216586.ece">reports</a>. Oprah has been very publicly backing Obama by accompanying him on a tour of Iowa, New Hampshire and South Carolina in mid-December. Her support has been credited with broadening his appeal and contributing to his recent successes. However, the girls aren't happy. A discussion thread has been started on Oprah's website entitled "Oprah is a traitor".</p>

<p>austad68 said that she “cannot believe that women all over this country are not up in arms over Oprah’s backing of Obama. For the first time in history we actually have a shot at putting a woman in the White House and Oprah backs the black MAN. She’s choosing her race over her gender.” </p>

<p>Hang on a second - Oprah should have NO responsibility to back political candidates based on race or gender. The issue as I see it is not whether she has a greater loyalty to her race or her gender - it's the fact that whichever candidate she backs, it will be seen as a race- or gender-based statement because she is a black woman. The idea that a black woman has a responsibility to back political candidates based on their race or gender, and will do so based solely on these criteria, is endemic of sexism and racism. </p>

<p>Positive discrimination is a total insult. A belief that black or female political candidates should be given preferential treatment implies a belief in their inherent incompetence. To believe that Oprah must be backing Obama because of his colour is an insult to him and possibly to black people in general. And whatever you think of the cult that is Oprah Winfrey, it is an insult to her to insinuate that her political beliefs comprise nothing more than a personal crusade against sexism and racism.</p>

<p>Apart from anything else though, I'm wondering if The Times might be blowing this all out of proportion. Is this angry messageboard really representative of the views of American women in general? Maybe I'm being optimistic, but I seriously doubt it.</p>]]>
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