http://www.thefword.org.uk/images/logo2003.gif 2012-02-09T13:06:21Z Latest comments made on The F-Word Blog tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012://3 Movable Type Copyright (c) 2012, The F-Word 2012-02-09T11:41:11Z 2012-02-09T11:41:11Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151712 Hannah 2012-02-09T09:36:00Z 2012-02-09T09:36:00Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151711 Holly Combe 2012-02-08T18:28:17Z 2012-02-08T18:28:17Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151709 Katherine 2012-02-08T14:58:31Z 2012-02-08T14:58:31Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151707 Shadow 2012-02-08T12:59:57Z 2012-02-08T12:59:57Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151705 Laurel 2012-02-07T21:50:11Z 2012-02-07T21:50:11Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151702 Chrissy D 2012-02-07T12:48:43Z 2012-02-07T12:48:43Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151701 Laura Woodhouse said: Thank you for sharing, Neesha. I'm so glad CRASAC were there to help you.]]> Laura Woodhouse 2012-02-07T11:01:56Z 2012-02-07T11:01:56Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151700 Ania Ostrowska 2012-02-07T08:33:39Z 2012-02-07T08:33:39Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151699 Laurel 2012-02-06T22:32:30Z 2012-02-06T22:32:30Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151697 ErinD said: I wrote this http://www.sabotagetimes.com/life/hard-knock-life-try-being-a-teenage-indian-feminist/ and people didn't think it was bad. S'all about the inadequacies of western feminism and how women of eatern culture are affected.]]> ErinD 2012-02-06T20:44:20Z 2012-02-06T20:44:20Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151696 Zoe 2012-02-06T20:43:40Z 2012-02-06T20:43:40Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151695 Zoe 2012-02-06T18:26:18Z 2012-02-06T18:26:18Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151693 Holly Combe 2012-02-06T18:07:21Z 2012-02-06T18:07:21Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151692 Ms. Sunlight 2012-02-06T17:52:48Z 2012-02-06T17:52:48Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151691 Sarah McAlpine said: anne lou- you can find the study at www.hiddenmarks.org.uk - a study carried out by the NUS Women's campaign. ]]> Sarah McAlpine 2012-02-06T14:47:02Z 2012-02-06T14:47:02Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151690 anneLou 2012-02-06T14:32:07Z 2012-02-06T14:32:07Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151689 Shadow 2012-02-06T13:35:30Z 2012-02-06T13:35:30Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151688 Ania Ostrowska 2012-02-06T12:22:40Z 2012-02-06T12:22:40Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151687 Holly Combe 2012-02-06T12:15:51Z 2012-02-06T12:15:51Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151686 anywavewilldo said: ps - folk might want to take a look at Kitty Stryker's blog and her work on power and consent - including the link pasted to a blog carnival of personal stories: please note I'm flagging up as not safe for work, p0rn, abuse/rape and BDSM inc. bondage photos on lower posts if you wish to avoid http://purrversatility.blogspot.com/2012/02/safeward-blog-carnival-2-part-2-trigger.html]]> anywavewilldo 2012-02-06T11:56:19Z 2012-02-06T11:56:19Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151685 anywavewilldo said: @fembot - nothing is private in that it is outside of patriarchy [or other parts of kyriarchy] - we are inside it and it is inside us - we are also partly free and our choices and behaviour matter inside any room and whoever is present. Do you really think you can close a door on the world and fuck in isolation? safe, sane and entusiastic consent is possible to many things that do not liberate women in general: from hiring a nanny while her kids are brought up by a relative 'back home'; to cosmetic surgery that errodes another woman's body confidence and class-marked access to a certain sort or appearance; to heterosexual D O->/s 0+ sex with an-oh-so-feminist man @Tabitha Long - I think the kink talk about playing with power to unmask it is largely empty rhetoric (though maybe not entirely) - go have a look at the reception Kitty Stryker is getting for challenging her own kink community about consent for example: folk saying safe words are only for the weak and why would a dom 'allow' a sub to 'choose' when to stop... blah blah blah. There are certainly other ways to do it; political activism, art, CR groups, drama, clowning, martial arts everyone: is feminism norming to a place where the worst thing we can do is 'upset' someone, or call out actions? to mix my metaphors: you can't upset an applecart without breaking some eggs]]> anywavewilldo 2012-02-06T11:33:55Z 2012-02-06T11:33:55Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151684 anywavewilldo said: @Yes: "And if you say anything against it people think you're a hairy feminist lesbian" - I am a hairy feminist lesbian - when people (sic) try and faze you out of challenging sexism by using heterosexism as a threat - I think it's best to summon up some solidarity rather than distance yourself. ]]> anywavewilldo 2012-02-06T00:01:19Z 2012-02-06T00:01:19Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151681 rose411 2012-02-05T23:59:03Z 2012-02-05T23:59:03Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151680 Zoë Scandrett said: You could always campaign to your union to get a Women's Officer. Try emailing Estelle Hart (estelle.hart@nus.org.uk) - NUS Women's Officer - to ask how to go about it. The NUS Women's Campaign can help you out :)]]> Zoë Scandrett 2012-02-05T23:05:08Z 2012-02-05T23:05:08Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151679 Sarah McAlpine said: @Laurel is your university affiliated with the NUS? Most NUS Student Unions will have positions for LGBT, Ethnic Minorities, Disabled and Women's Officers- although, sadly, they are not always filled. If not, is there a Welfare Officer you could talk to? Or a democratic structure you'd feel safe in to get your issues heard? Do you mind if I ask what University you attend? ]]> Sarah McAlpine 2012-02-05T23:04:32Z 2012-02-05T23:04:32Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151678 Tabitha Long 2012-02-05T22:54:42Z 2012-02-05T22:54:42Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151677 Tabitha Long 2012-02-05T21:21:37Z 2012-02-05T21:21:37Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151676 Laurel 2012-02-05T20:19:41Z 2012-02-05T20:19:41Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151675 Fembot 2012-02-05T20:02:50Z 2012-02-05T20:02:50Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151674 Sarah McAlpine said: In reply to "Yes"- you could try talking to your Student Union's Women's Officer about the introduction of a Zero Tolerance policy, http://www.nusconnect.org.uk/news/article/6074/1341/ which many Student Union's up and down the country are taking. It's not going to solve all the problems you experience when you're out, but it might be a good place to start =]]]> Sarah McAlpine 2012-02-05T19:49:41Z 2012-02-05T19:49:41Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151673 Sal P-A said: Speaking as a university lecturer, articles like "How to fuck your lecturer", although not illegal, are also a problem - not only are they disrespectful but precipitate difficult situations in which female lectures face unwanted sexual attention. At my university sexual relationships between students and staff (quite rightly) come under a lot of scrutiny – and with me – like most, (dare I say all), of my female peers - its frankly never gonna happen! So propagating this idea that it’s both common and welcome is generally not helpful in exacerbating the difficult position female lecturers can find ourselves in, working in a very male dominated arena. I have been lucky, or perhaps pro-active, in managing potential situations, but clearly these 'lads' don't think I deserve the same amount of respect as my male peers. Moreover, most universities would take a very dim view of students sexually harrassing their lecturers - the students themselves stand to lose out if they for a second 'buy in' to this lad culture.]]> Sal P-A 2012-02-05T19:32:58Z 2012-02-05T19:32:58Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151672 Yes. said: ''Unwanted groping is par for the course on a standard night out.'' I am a uni student and this is so true. And if you say anything against it people think you're a hairy feminist lesbian.]]> Yes. 2012-02-05T16:17:33Z 2012-02-05T16:17:33Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151670 Shelly said: Thank you for reading and commenting. :) You are all right of course - my tank should wear what she wants to wear and I should care a lot less about people's perceptions of me and assumptions they might make. Will try it & see. I agree - the skimpier stuff should be available to both male & female. That's the key. Probably all sorts of assumptions would be made about a guy in the skimpier stuff too? I've come across that "dude" thing as well - not just in game. My former boss used to call me it all the time. It was really odd. He didn't do it to anyone else. He also used to shorten my name. In the beginning I thought it was just friendliness - but later things happened to suggest a fundamental lack of respect and a view of me as some little thing that needed protecting (& he was completely not up to that even if I had needed it - which I didn't). So I have an aversion to that term anyway!!]]> Shelly 2012-02-05T14:45:39Z 2012-02-05T14:45:39Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151669 anywavewilldo said: Vanilla privilege - that’s a term for real? I think that’s a very counterproductive way of looking at things, and an insult to anti-oppressive liberation movements. Not everything that is marginalised is desirable or about freedom. I’m writing from an anarcha/rad feminist perspective: If I believe in no gods, no slaves, no masters for all human society then why would I make an exception for the erotic? I don’t think having orgasms while ‘playing’ with power is a good way to dissolve kyriarchy because orgasm is a fairly good motivator to keep repeating the same behaviour. The kink/ vanilla dichotomy is fairly stupid as power relations exist in all sexual interactions. I try and have sex that doesn’t make power differences more - this doesn’t make it vanilla. If I object to women thinking it’s cool to play at Nazis, or plantations, or rape then I’m not being vanilla privileged I’m calling out racism and sexism like I would in any other setting.. I don’t think D/ s sex is feminist - but getting into purity politics about who is a good feminist is fairly pointless on an individual level - yes the white supremacist, capitalist, hetpatriarchy is in everything we do: but we do choose, we do name better and worse; right and wrong - or we wouldn’t be feminists. If you’re gonna do kink then do free range kink - but don’t think this is going to bring down ‘the system’ and perhaps consider the ways in which it might be holding it up. ]]> anywavewilldo 2012-02-04T23:58:50Z 2012-02-04T23:58:50Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151666 jasmine21 2012-02-04T16:19:26Z 2012-02-04T16:19:26Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151665 Laurel 2012-02-04T12:41:10Z 2012-02-04T12:41:10Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151663 Rachel Nye said: Well said!]]> Rachel Nye 2012-02-04T11:27:49Z 2012-02-04T11:27:49Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151662 Katrina 2012-02-03T22:34:51Z 2012-02-03T22:34:51Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151661 Shadow 2012-02-03T16:36:13Z 2012-02-03T16:36:13Z tag:www.thefword.org.uk,2012:/blog//2.151660 R-Magz