What does orgasm mean to you?

// 23 March 2008

Sarah Francis wrote in with a request for responses to the question “What does orgasm mean to you?” Sounds like an interesting project! To respond, email her at s.francis@2005.hull.ac.uk:

I’m studying the way female sexuality is represented in art for my long

study at university. As it’s a Digital Art degree I’m also creating an

installation of my own artwork about real female sexuality.

I’m looking for responses from women to the following question…

“What does orgasm mean to you?”

Responses need to be short – around 20 words.

They can be about the physical, emotional, spiritual etc meanings.

The statements will be used as part of a massive mural which will be on

display to the public and students at the University of Hull.

They won’t be attibuted to individuals. It would help loads if people

could include with their responses how the would like to be known – i.e.

“16 year old girl” “Female priest” “19 year old cat-lover” etc so that

they’re not just comments, there’s a hint of a story behind them.

The reason I’m asking for help is because it would be so much more

powerful if the responses came from all over the country, from many women,

rather than just the women I know.

I really hope you can help with this. Feel free to pass on my email

address! Subtext magazine have expressed interest in publishing my research

and findings so it’s definitely a worthy thing!

Comments From You

Dakota // Posted 15 June 2008 at 9:41 pm

A very fantastic feeling that makes me feel so good.

Rosie // Posted 20 June 2008 at 9:06 pm

Unobtainable – so far.

A goal that at times excites me with its promise, and at others depresses me by being seemingly not be ‘for’ me.

An aspiration.

The key to fullfillment.

A myth?

Tottally-Vergin-and-Proud- // Posted 14 July 2008 at 8:50 pm

i don’t know what one feels like. im only a 13 year old girl. I also need some advice about sex. Can anyone help me out?

Laura // Posted 14 July 2008 at 10:04 pm

Hi Tottally,

This website should have the answers to all your questions:


Laurel Dearing // Posted 14 July 2008 at 10:49 pm

something that terrifies me as a dont like any sort of tingly feelings that make me feel like i dont have a strong grip on what my body is doing and my mind is thinking but the ones on clit are bad enough.

jessica m. // Posted 27 October 2008 at 1:57 pm

My orgasms are far between but when I do my clit the right way it is mindboggeling, breathtaking and worth the wait

barbara // Posted 27 October 2009 at 5:04 pm

Hi..I am 56 and have been married 40 years. My husband is the love of my life but I have never had an orgasm when we

had intercourse. My first “cum” was when I was 36 and I did it myself watch

ing a lesbian porno. My clit is the key but it has to be touched right. I have taught my husband to lick me in the

right place and it is great but I still get

off better by myself

Iris m. // Posted 12 November 2009 at 5:02 am

Mmmm when my husband hits the right spot I feel a tingle that keeps going an going till finally I can’t take no more and I get this volcano bursting mind blowing feeling that makes me squirm from one side to the other and once its all over I fall asleep in my hubbies arms :D I so love those nights

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