Bisexual women are the new sexy in pop music

Is recent frankness about bisexuality among female pop stars indicative of liberation of women and LGBT people or merely an extension of sexualisation of the industry, asks Lawrence Allen

, 10 January 2013

Katy Perry rising to fame by defiantly shouting ‘I kissed a girl and I liked it!’ Lady Gaga claiming that ‘Poker Face’ is about secretly fantasising about having sex with a girl whilst having sex with her boyfriend. Rihanna in the music video for ‘Te Amo’ seductively caressing a female dancer on a bed, both wearing lingerie. Nicki Minaj claiming that she loves hanging out at female strip clubs in ‘I Luv Dem Strippers’. Madonna kissing her two stage brides, Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera, at the 2003 MTV Video Music Awards. All these are images from the past 10 years of American pop music. Some are iconic moments, others comparatively pedestrian; some are controversial, some not so much. All, however, feature undeniably successful women.

Nicki Minaj.jpgImagine now, Justin Bieber, for example, having a hit with a song about how much he likes making out with his male friends on a night out or thinking about them whilst in bed with his girlfriend Selena Gomez. Imagine him in a music video, caressing a male backing dancer’s boxers, or surrounded by pole dancing male strippers. Most would find these scenarios unlikely.

In May 2012, a couple of weeks before the release of his debut album, Frank Ocean attracted media attention by confessing that his first love was a man. In this modern era, when a US president has openly endorsed gay marriage, coming out is no longer a career killer. In fact, the move may have affected Ocean’s album sales positively rather than negatively. Still, there was something that seemed unique about the incident. Coming from a background of hip-hop, with its Afro-Caribbean influences and no-homo culture, the move appeared all the more courageous, and many critics and supporters praised the bravery of this move. But why was it so brave for this male R&B star to come out, when New York Times’ most influential female rapper of all time, Nicki Minaj, reportedly pretended to be bisexual to get attention? Why is it so unusual for Ocean to come out as bisexual when almost every major female pop star of the past ten years has flaunted the idea?

The unusual braveness of Ocean’s revelation, that he loved a man, shows that acceptance of men challenging their assigned role is moving at a different speed

Bisexual female pop stars are popular for two reasons. First of all, a lot of women like them, for they appear to be liberated, uncompromising and transgressive. Secondly, men like bisexual women because, well, they’re considered to be hot. Is the lady love in the charts little more than glorified girl-on-girl action? Do female pop stars liberate, titillate or both? Is the plethora of female bisexual imagery in pop music a victory or a loss for feminists, and for LGBT people?

There is something aspirational and inspirational about the modern pop star. The celebrity singer is not just someone young people want to listen to; it’s someone they want to be. As such, recent years have seen the charts fill up with strong female stars, asserting their strength, dominance and independence, inspiring girls to believe that they can run the world. Being able to make out with hot girls is the ultimate extension of girls being able to equal guys in everything they do; nothing says “I don’t need a man” like getting your kicks with a girlfriend.

To experiment in same-sex relationships is to defy one’s anciently appointed gender role. If one opposes traditional gender roles, the stereotypically weak, passive female becomes strong and active, but the stereotypically strong, dominant male becomes weak. When Jessie J says “I’m bi – so what?” she seems strong. But when Ocean says he loved a man he seems incredibly vulnerable. It’s easy to see why bisexual women are cooler than bisexual men: most women don’t want to look weak, but neither do most men.

The ubiquity in pop culture of girls behaving like boys, when contrasted with the corresponding lack of boys behaving like girls, highlights the enduring misogyny

512px-Frank_Ocean_Coachella_2012_3.jpgSo while men still want their male role models to be men, it seems that young girls now look for female role models who also exhibit characteristics that our culture has labelled as masculine. Jessie J, for example, shot to fame on the back of her debut single ‘Do It Like A Dude’, boasting such loaded lines as “grab my crotch, wear my hat low”, “throw me a beer, no pretty drinks, I’m a guy out here” and “my bitches on my dick like this”. Now I’m all for women rejecting the idea that they should behave in a certain way and am glad to see this rejection recurring in pop culture. Furthermore, I am thrilled to see openly bisexual Jessie as a visible role model for gay, bisexual and, indeed, heterosexual girls. However, the unusual braveness of Ocean’s revelation, that he could admit doing something as supposedly feminine as loving another man, shows that acceptance of men challenging their assigned role is moving at a different speed. As one of pop’s experts in exploiting sexual controversy, Madonna, states in her 2001 single ‘What It Feels Like For A Girl’:

Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short,

Wear shirts and boots, ’cause it’s okay to be a boy.

But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading,

‘Cause you think that being a girl is degrading.

A defiant statement of neo-feminist liberty, the ubiquity in pop culture of girls behaving like boys, when contrasted with the corresponding lack of boys behaving like girls, highlights an enduring sense of misogyny. Boys are still better than girls. But girls now have the option to be like a boy if they want to be better. While women may no longer have to behave in a feminine way, the idea of masculinity and femininity being intrinsically equal is still only that – an idea.

However, despite being able to down beers with men, modern female pop stars still simultaneously exude feminine beauty. They can be masculine, they can be feminine: they can be everything. As BeyoncĂ© proclaims in ‘Run The World (Girls)’, they’re “Strong enough to bear the children / Then get back to business”, and this shouting, marching, feminist track comes from an album predominantly filled with slushy ballads that ooze feminine sexuality. The trend of bisexuality in female pop performances runs parallel to a trend of duality of personality. The template for the modern female pop star combines a masculine dominance with an old fashioned feminine sex appeal, creating a rather unstoppable force.

But is it only by having this exact mix that these strong women are so readily accepted by both men and women? That is to say, would crotch-grabbing Jessie J have been so successful if she were a full on Chaz Bono? Despite portraying behaviour and personality traits formerly only accepted as masculine, visually, the women in the charts are very much women. Moreover, they are very conventionally attractive and beautiful women and are often seen wearing a lot less clothes than their male counterparts. Of course, every woman should have the right to look as she likes, but generally, female pop stars have to be necessarily sexy. Just look at the abuse Nicola Roberts received for being perceived as ‘the ugly one’ in Girls Aloud, and Jesy Nelson for being ‘the fat one’ in Little Mix. Though perhaps sexually liberated in many ways, social pressure on girls to be stereotypically sexually appealing is as strong as ever.

The rise of female bisexual imagery in the music industry is directly linked to the pornographisation of pop

Some things never change, and one of them is that sex sells. For a record company, not only is it important for girls to want to be like their beautiful female artists, but also for men to want to be with them. This has always been the case, but recently pop has been getting so sexualised, people have started to complain, and even the Prime Minister has weighed in.

An emphasis on looks and youth in the pop industry is by no means a gendered phenomenon – Rik Waller can arguably sing, but he wouldn’t have made the cut for The Wanted. But when children see Ne-Yo performing in a sharp jacket and bowler hat while Katy Perry wears a creamcake bikini, the message is clear. Furthermore, complaints about pop music videos and live performances becoming too X-rated (for example, Rihanna and Christina Aguilera’s performances at the 2010 X factor final) always seem to surround women’s bodies.

Female bisexuality symbol.pngHistorically, pornography has been used more often by straight men to look at women than vice versa. As such, as pop becomes more pornographic, it is the girls’ clothes that come off more so than the boys’. Likewise, there is a strong tradition in pornography of straight men enjoying girl-on-girl scenes, a tradition not equally matched by women enjoying gay male erotica. Thus the rise of female bisexual imagery in the music industry is directly linked to the pornographisation of pop: as straight men enjoy girl-on-girl action in porn, we see a softcore reflection of this all over pop culture. And as many female porn stars take such work where they can get it, regardless of their real sexuality, it seems many pop stars do the same. After all, of all the pop heavyweights mentioned in my opening paragraph, can you think of a single time one of them has mentioned or been pictured with a specific, real-life female partner? Jessie J has, but all of the American would-be lady lovers seem to be following in the tradition of the original fake lesbian act, Russian girl band t.A.T.u., and keeping their queerness purely professional rather than personal.

Being bisexual is edgy and cool, but lesbian is far too out there to be relatable to the average straight woman

Perhaps it is this nudge-nudge wink-wink superficiality that allows this apparent queerness to have become so mainstream. For despite straight female celebrities apparently falling over each other to prove they’re the most sexually liberal, as far as dedicated homosexuals are concerned, women are in fact less visible than men in the media: for every Claire Balding on our screens, there’s an Alan Carr, a Paul O’Grady, a Graham Norton and a Stephen Fry. Clearly, society is more willing to accept the woman who mixes a masculine strength with a feminine charm than the straight up butch.

However, normalising bisexual experimentation in women is not the same as normalising homosexuality. It’s understandable that a male dominated society might be tempted to harbour prejudice against women who have absolutely no interest in men. After all, what use are they? It has been alleged that Jessie J is in fact 100 per cent gay, though she has strongly refuted these claims. Perhaps the pressure to appear bisexual is then applied to both straight and gay female pop stars. Being bisexual is edgy and cool, but lesbian is far too out there to be relatable to the average straight woman. Furthermore, straight men may enjoy the idea of women having sex with women, but only if they believe that they might also have sex with them.

If one of the roots of the phenomenon of female bisexuality in pop is that women are being encouraged to portray an image of bisexuality to appear sexy (to men), rather than a victory for feminism or the queer movement, then the phenomenon is in fact a twisted product of misogynist heteronormativity.

Photograph of Nicki Minaj uploaded by Flickr user Eva Rinaldi Celebrity and Live Music Photographer. Photograph of Frank Ocean obtained from Wikimedia Commons. Image of female bisexuality symbol obtained from Wikimedia Commons.

Lawrence Allen is a 21 year old writer, musician and drag queen from Stockport. In his spare time he enjoys pop music, being fierce, and swan diving off bar stools to Cheryl Cole songs

Comments From You

femmeunpleurs // Posted 10 January 2013 at 11:42 pm

Can i also add that the way the mainstream media treats bisexual woman’s sexuality as ‘hot’ or a just a character trait which makes them attractive is awfull objectification and is bad for bisexual woman who routinely don’t get there sexaulity treated seriously, people think they are putting it on ect. and get sexual harrasment from men because of this (as femme lesbians do) .

Kezia // Posted 10 January 2013 at 11:43 pm

Just FYI, this article is making me uncomfortable for a whole host of reasons: implicit biphobia aimed at women; reduction of feminine traits to passivity, weakness, and fuckability; linking Afro-Caribbean influences with homophobia; implying that Chaz Bono is a yardstick for butch women (misgendering him); not linking to or quoting bisexual women musicians…

Any chance of a discussion about this?

Elinor Predota // Posted 13 January 2013 at 12:57 pm

I agree with the overall thrust of this article: yes, being feminine is seen as weak, for women and men, unless it’s associated with a ‘ballsy’, in-your-face (i.e. masculine attitude) — and the sexualisation of popular culture in general, not just in pop, means that straight porn rules apply: women touching each other *for men’s pleasure*, men touching each other never.

But the way bisexuality is talked about in this article denies the reality of bisexuality and bisexual experience. Normalisation of bisexual experimentation by women is not the same as normalisation of homosexuality — but more importantly, nor is it the same as normalisation of actual female bisexuality. One of the most common manifestations of biphobia and bi erasure that bisexual women experience on a regular basis is the assumption that we’ll jump to ‘perform’ with another woman for a man’s pleasure — any man’s pleasure.

The popular language of female bisexuality *is* the language of straight pornography, much to the frustration and harm of actual bisexual women, as we attempt to navigate both dominant straight culture and the dominance of largely biphobic lesbian culture in LGBT space.

In that way, bisexual performance by female pop stars does me as a bisexual woman no favours at all. By contrast, Frank Ocean’s statement was *not* part of a performance — it feels more vulnerable, because it is real vulnerability, because he was talking about his *real life* and his real feelings, not aiming to shape an image guided by a record company.

I have a great deal of sympathy for Jessie J. Accepting her statement about her own sexual orientation at face value, as a bisexual woman attempting to bring her personal experience into her creative output, she is seen as playing to the pornographic pleasure of straight men. The problem is not her bisexuality, but the bi-erasure, biphobia and misogyny of the music industry in particular, and popular culture in general.

SexierThanThou // Posted 14 January 2013 at 3:57 pm

“Furthermore, straight men may enjoy the idea of women having sex with women, but only if they believe that they might also have sex with them.”

I would suggest that for most men that enjoy the idea of women that have sex with women, the “but…” is a preference, not a necessity. Pure and absolute voyeurism works too, no doubt.

Anyway, girl on girl is just easy and effective marketing. Nothing new. Pretty sure it was all covered (ad nauseum) a decade ago when Madonna tongue-wrestled with Xtina and Britney.

Amanda McIndoe // Posted 15 January 2013 at 7:14 pm

I’ve already commented via facebook but this is been one of my bugbear’s for a wee while. All I’ll say is I feel my Bisexuality is not taken seriously because so many female pop stars do seem to use it for attention. I can’t be the only bi woman who has been asked the dreaded “hurrgh hurrgh can I watch?” No. No you cannot.

I’ve also had negative comments from hetrosexual women who just assume I’m saying I’m bi for male attention. I feel like I can’t win. It doesn’t help at all when Nicki Minaj apprantley says she pretended to be bi for attention. Thanks Nicki, helps a lot that does. Not.

Lawrence Allen // Posted 16 January 2013 at 5:41 pm


Historically, and wrongly, women have been viewed as a passive weaker sex. Furthermore, there is no denying that women more than men are valued on as you call it “fuckability”, especially in the media. I believe Bruce Forsyth and Tess Daly were hired to present Strictly Come Dancing for different reasons. However, I accept that there is indeed much more to our culture’s construction of “femininity” than the traits on which I chose to focus.

I don’t believe being black means in any way that you are going to be homophobic. However I believe that in traditions with a strong Afro-Caribbean influence there is often some level of ingrained homophobia, stemming from the fact that in much of the Caribbean and Africa homosexuality is frowned upon to the extent that it is against the law and in some cases even punishable by death. There are not many cases of popular artists being accused of explicit homophobia in their lyrics, but those that have been are rap/hip-hop or reggae artists e.g. Eminem, Beenie Man.

As for Chaz Bono, I used a trans man as an example of a serious and real commitment to defy your birth-appointed gender as opposed to the trendy superficiality of “Do It Like A Dude”, but on reflection I agree with you that believing your gender doesn’t match your legal sex and so working to change that is completely different to believing that you shouldn’t have to match any idea of what is appropriate for your gender.

I am not biphobic towards to women. I do perhaps have a mild disdain for bisexuality being used for attention/marketing by straight women which is who they majority of this article is about.

Lawrence Allen // Posted 16 January 2013 at 6:03 pm

@Elinor Predator

The fake female bisexuality discussed in this article is indeed completely different to Frank Ocean’s real coming out. His story simply made me start thinking about ways that bisexuality is used by women as cool but not by men.

I completely agree with you that there is no wrongdoing on Jessie J’s part here, and I hope that was not inferred. I want there to be as many LGBT musicians talking about their experience as possible. The questions I am trying to raise are is there a different level of support and acceptance for women or men and bisexuals or homosexuals in this situation, if so why, and what effect is this having.

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